BULLYING
Bullying has been described as one of a criminal crimes. To me, bullying is a bad activity which involve punch of kids who want to show how tough they are and how far they can push and intimidate other individuals. Some innocent kids had lost their lives and some are still recovering from the accident they had faced due to bullying. It happened that bullying is taken place in school and off school compound. Because school is around the corner...let throw-in some advice on how to help the young kids to build up their sellf-esteem and know how to handle bullying if they happenede to face those who are bullying them....
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on -
Bula ngke Nikabubutinmeang...it is very true..some times kids are scared to tell what is really going on at school.So we as parent, we need to open up to them and ask them how was their day at school! Like you mention it Nikabubutinmeang ..COMMUNICATION is very important .
Good one sis and thank you for your time ..
NiKaBuBuTiNiMeAnG said:Talofa Nei Oprah....
I know a tiny winey thing about this but I am pretty sure that there are others that might know more about this topic. As far as I know is that Kids who physically or verbally bully others sometimes come from homes where adults fight or hurt each other. They may pick on other kids because they have been bullied themselves...or they like the feel of power..etc etc etc..
It is a problem at school and these children who bully need counseling. I strongly believe that counseling or Family counseling can help these children understand why they act as they do and hopefully it can teach them how to interact with others in more positive ways.
Other things that a child need to know and understand is to COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATE...I have been oberving most of these cases at school and most of these children do not know how to stand up for themselves.We need to educate these chidren. Parents need to talk to their chikdren and children need to tell their parents, teachers, and friends of what is happening at school. They need to understand that ignoring the problem doesn't fix it. It will only get worse so they need to know that there is a law that bullying is not tolerated in school.(U.S) They are not alone and that there is help out there for them.
~ The bullying stopped when I claimed myself and proved that I wasn't afraid...~ Randy Harrison
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Permalink Reply by ULMO on -
Excellent forum Oprah on something that is needed to be known.....
Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.
Norwegian researcher Dan Olweus defines bullying as when a person is
"exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons." He defines negative action as "when a person intentionally inflicts injury or discomfort upon another person, through physical contact, through words or in other ways".
Bullying behavior may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities, exclusion from social situations, physical abuse, or coercion. Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular or tough or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are bullied.
Direct bullying involves a great deal of physical aggression such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping and pinching.
Social aggression or indirect bullying is characterized by threatening the victim into social isolation. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim's manner of dress and other socially-significant markers (including the victim's race, religion, disability, etc). Other forms of indirect bullying which are more subtle and more likely to be verbal, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.
The effects of bullying can be serious and even fatal. Mona O’Moore of the Anti-Bullying Centre at Trinity College in Dublin, has written, "There is a growing body of research which indicates that individuals, whether child or adult, who are persistently subjected to abusive behavior are at risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide."
Victims of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low self-esteem and increased susceptibility to illness. I do hope that bullying is not to be found and tolerated in any Kiribati Communities where-ever we are at in the world. Love, Peace and God Bless....
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on
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HI there!! thank you for your input on this topic hopefully parent out there will have something to share with their kids before SCHOOL START! It's very true that the VICTIMS of this type of behaviour are still recovering from their injuries cause by this bad behaviour..And in order to stop this activity we need to work together as a FAMILY.
THANK YOU ULMO FOR YOUR TIME!!! GOOD ONE !
AO TEKERAOI NGKE IKANNE N AM TABO ANNE TIA BOOO
ULMO said:Excellent forum Oprah on something that is needed to be known.....
Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.
Norwegian researcher Dan Olweus defines bullying as when a person is
"exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons." He defines negative action as "when a person intentionally inflicts injury or discomfort upon another person, through physical contact, through words or in other ways".
Bullying behavior may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities, exclusion from social situations, physical abuse, or coercion. Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular or tough or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are bullied.
Direct bullying involves a great deal of physical aggression such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping and pinching.
Social aggression or indirect bullying is characterized by threatening the victim into social isolation. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim's manner of dress and other socially-significant markers (including the victim's race, religion, disability, etc). Other forms of indirect bullying which are more subtle and more likely to be verbal, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.
The effects of bullying can be serious and even fatal. Mona O’Moore of the Anti-Bullying Centre at Trinity College in Dublin, has written, "There is a growing body of research which indicates that individuals, whether child or adult, who are persistently subjected to abusive behavior are at risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide."
Victims of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low self-esteem and increased susceptibility to illness. I do hope that bullying is not to be found and tolerated in any Kiribati Communities where-ever we are at in the world. Love, Peace and God Bless....
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on
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Mauri ngke Kathy. E rangin raba am comment iaon aio ke. Eng i kakaoaua anne naba ba angia ataei ngkana a tang nakoia tan reirei ao aia tia reirei a ti tuanngia anne ma ni bon arona e kakawaki ba tan reirei ana riai n ongo ba tera te kanganga ao riki man tauraoi n observe te itera anne. Ai ngaia ae e kakawaki ngaira kaaro ke tan tararuaia ataei ba tina titiraki ba e uara aia bong n te reirei. Ko raraba ngkoe Kathy ao are ieta naba am ibuobuoki n aron aio. Tekeraoi ngke n am week ae boou.
kathy said:Mauri ngke Nei Oprah..I a bon boutoka aia iango naba nakai n aron te taeka ae BULLYING, n aron are ti nonoria e a maiti ataei aika a reke n te kabuanibai ibukin te waki aio. Ngai ngkanne ia bon bukinnia tan reirei ba n aron ae i ataia ao ataei aki toki n tang nakoia aia tia reirei ao tan reirei aki ongo ba a kona n ti kangai nakoia ."stop telling ..just ignore them" ao anne e riki aio ba tan reirei aki ongo ba tera ae riki ao man kakaea raoi te rongorongo. Bon au kantaninga ba kaaro ana riai n ongo irouia natia ni baai aika a riki n te reirei ke n tabo n takakaro. E rangin raba te taeka n kauring riki ba e a bon kaan teirake te reirei. Are ieta ngke Nei Oprah n aron noran aio.
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Permalink Reply by ☮ǝʞɐɐʇuɐɹnɐqıɹǝʇ☮ on -
Akea oooo nei tei iaiangoraoi ma ana topic. Iaiangoraoim bon tetekeraoim naba. Hahaha. Ao ngaia ma tia waaki. Bullying is not rite. How would someone exploiting and hurting others be a great thing? I wouldnt wanna be the one being exploited and bullied. So. I would recommend parents to educate their kids the do unto others as you do unto yourself principle. For the ones being bullied, I would say find good friends and share your story. Also, as parents we should know our kids. Try not to ignore any sign you havent seen fromyour kid. Communicate so to understand whats going on with your kid. Hahahaha. Neiko, are i noria iroun natiu are au karimoa. Hahaha. Better stop here and let the expert to explain more. Cheers everyone and let not Bully stands in the way of our kids!
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on
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Mauri ngke Nei Teribaurauntaake, shshshs ko aki kewe ngke ma am kaunga nano ke!!! E bon rangin eti ba ngaira kaaro ma tibu ke tani kawakinia ataei e rangin kakawaki ba tina riai n communicate ma ngaia n taai nako. Akea te communication ao anne e na riki te kabuanibai ke te kanganga nakoia ataei . Are ieta ngke Nei Teribaurauntaake n am boutoka n te maroro aio ke ...Tekeraoi ngke ikanne ngkoe n am tabo anne ko mena iai ke ...
☮ǝʞɐɐʇuɐɹnɐqıɹǝʇ☮ said:Akea oooo nei tei iaiangoraoi ma ana topic. Iaiangoraoim bon tetekeraoim naba. Hahaha. Ao ngaia ma tia waaki. Bullying is not rite. How would someone exploiting and hurting others be a great thing? I wouldnt wanna be the one being exploited and bullied. So. I would recommend parents to educate their kids the do unto others as you do unto yourself principle. For the ones being bullied, I would say find good friends and share your story. Also, as parents we should know our kids. Try not to ignore any sign you havent seen fromyour kid. Communicate so to understand whats going on with your kid. Hahahaha. Neiko, are i noria iroun natiu are au karimoa. Hahaha. Better stop here and let the expert to explain more. Cheers everyone and let not Bully stands in the way of our kids!
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on
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I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS ONE...because if there are many cameras around the school area the kids who are bullying will realize that they will be watched. I like your idea and I think all the schools should have cameras around their compound and I bet you .....there will be....NO MORE BULLYING ...GOOD ONE TrakAbo.
Thanks for your time to comment on this DISCUSSION.
TEKERAOI NGKE N AM TABO ANNE.
TrakAbo said:Here's a thought on prevention;
How about more security camera's around the school compound, but it's a shame most schools don't have sufficient funds. Otherwise, monitoring would be an ease, and less to none of this activity would occur.
And maybe hire some cheap security guards to deter it from happening.
Authority....
Just a thought....
TrakAbo
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on
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Mauri naba ngke Nei Ata. I rangin kakoaua ba ti bon kona n nori waki irouia natira ke ataei ngkana a oki man te reirei. Ngai naba e reke anne nakon natiu ao te baai ae i karaoia i kaira natiu nakon te auti are e mena iai te tetei are e iowawa nakon natiu man taetae raoi nakon ana kaaro. Imwina riki natiu ma ataei aikekei a riki ba taian best friends ao anne e rangin kakawaki ba ngaira kaaro tina riai naba n karaoa ara makuri itinanikun te reirei..visit te family anne ao taekinna te baai ae riki. Ko bati n raba naba n am tai ao am maroro iaon te topic aio. Tekeraoi ngke ikanne ao tia boo
Nei Ata said:Kona mauri ngke Nei Oprah. I rangin kukurei n am topic aio ba maneu e oki man te reirei ao e tang ba e kamaruaki irouia ataei aika a gang. Bon te kantaninga ba ataei aike a rereke ma te aro aio ana riai ni naba n kateaki imatan te bowi ba e aki riai te waki aio nakoia ataei aike aki unun. Ao tao nakoia kaaro ba ana riai n reireinia raoi natia. Ko bati n rabwa n am topic aio ao e uati.
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Permalink Reply by Wilfred and Victoria Schutz on -
amen to that!!!
COWBOY WARRIORS no#1 FAN said:Talofa Nei Oprah....
I know a tiny winey thing about this but I am pretty sure that there are others that might know more about this topic. As far as I know is that Kids who physically or verbally bully others sometimes come from homes where adults fight or hurt each other. They may pick on other kids because they have been bullied themselves...or they like the feel of power..etc etc etc..
It is a problem at school and these children who bully need counseling. I strongly believe that counseling or Family counseling can help these children understand why they act as they do and hopefully it can teach them how to interact with others in more positive ways.
Other things that a child need to know and understand is to COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATE...I have been oberving most of these cases at school and most of these children do not know how to stand up for themselves.We need to educate these chidren. Parents need to talk to their chikdren and children need to tell their parents, teachers, and friends of what is happening at school. They need to understand that ignoring the problem doesn't fix it. It will only get worse so they need to know that there is a law that bullying is not tolerated in school.(U.S) They are not alone and that there is help out there for them.
~ The bullying stopped when I claimed myself and proved that I wasn't afraid...~ Randy Harrison
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Permalink Reply by ❦❦❦uǝɹɹǝ❦❦❦ on
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Kam na mauri Wilfred and Victoria Schutz. Kam raba naba n ami tai n wareware n taian comments. Tekeraoi ngkami n ami tabo anne ao tia manga bobo moa .
Wilfred and Victoria Schutz said:amen to that!!!
COWBOY WARRIORS no#1 FAN said:Talofa Nei Oprah....
I know a tiny winey thing about this but I am pretty sure that there are others that might know more about this topic. As far as I know is that Kids who physically or verbally bully others sometimes come from homes where adults fight or hurt each other. They may pick on other kids because they have been bullied themselves...or they like the feel of power..etc etc etc..
It is a problem at school and these children who bully need counseling. I strongly believe that counseling or Family counseling can help these children understand why they act as they do and hopefully it can teach them how to interact with others in more positive ways.
Other things that a child need to know and understand is to COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATE...I have been oberving most of these cases at school and most of these children do not know how to stand up for themselves.We need to educate these chidren. Parents need to talk to their chikdren and children need to tell their parents, teachers, and friends of what is happening at school. They need to understand that ignoring the problem doesn't fix it. It will only get worse so they need to know that there is a law that bullying is not tolerated in school.(U.S) They are not alone and that there is help out there for them.
~ The bullying stopped when I claimed myself and proved that I wasn't afraid...~ Randy Harrison
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